The issue of autonomy has been an interesting topic over the years... and it always comes back to being able to exercise your own autonomy without infringing on someone elses.... but over the years I have come to realize that many (NOT ALL) people in this community really are still children's minds in adult bodies (trust me... I've been wiping many of their noses for years....) and they are not exercising autonomy. In fact, My lover and I were working so hard so others could have the "autonomy" that they were looking for, that I ended up really sick(not just the endo), and he couldn't stop working because there weren't enough people out of the thousands in this community to pick up the slack... and I had to leave the community to get the support that I needed. Come to find out, had I not left... I would have eventually DIED. Do I have to die because others can't take care of themselves? This is a real issue, and should be examined thoroughly.